Extreme Sex: Masochism and Other Sexual Disorder

Have you ever seen in an adult movie when a man brings a stick and torturing a woman? Then we are so curious about this scene, is it normal or not? Or even maybe we imitating the scene during sex time? We are now going to talk about masochism. Masochism is a condition in which a person feels aroused, even to orgasm, when they are beaten, berated, bound, made physically ill while having sex.

This masochistic condition is included in the category of paraphilia a.k.a sexual disorder. A person diagnosed with masochism will usually experience other symptoms. These symptoms include excessive anxiety, experiencing shame without cause, and obsessive thoughts with masochistic ideas continuously.

But someone who has a tendency to do masochism may not be said to be masochistic if they are able to control their masochism. A person is also not called a masochist if he has other symptoms as described above, and is able to fulfill his sexual satisfaction without committing masochism.

Masochism actually has another specific type, called asphyxiophilia. This is a condition in which a person receives sexual satisfaction by holding his breath which is helped by his partner. It can be done by strangling, covering the face with a pillow, or other things that make them hold their breath. Sometimes,  many sufferers of this type of masochism lead to death from being out of breath.

What causes someone to experience this condition?

Nobody knows the cause of the sexual disorder of masochism. However, Psychology Today says that there are several theories revealed that sexual disorders occur when someone's fantasies cannot be tolerated. There are also other theories which say that this is a way to escape from reality. For example, someone feels more manly when doing masochism in bed. But behind that, he is actually a shy person, quiet and even afraid to a woman.

By acting like his fantasies, these people feel that they are different than before. In addition, some psychoanalytic theories say that this masochistic behavior is caused by childhood trauma (eg sexual abuse) or childhood experiences related to other cases of paraphilia.

How to diagnose this condition?

Usually, doctors diagnose this case of masochism if someone has experienced intense sexual stimulation. However, sexual stimulation received is also accompanied by other violent activities, such as being beaten, humiliated, tied up, or experiencing some other form of suffering.

A person is said to have a masochist if he has felt this type of fantasy drive or behavior for at least six months. This is also accompanied by other aspects of life that are disrupted, such as work and social. Masochism sexual behavior usually can be detected and diagnosed since early adulthood and sometimes even starts from the age of children.

Can this sexual disorder be treated?

Yes of course. But not easy, and really takes time. There are several ways that must be done to overcome sexual masochism disorders.

Psychotherapy method

Psychotherapy is conducted to find out and overcome the causes of the perpetrators of masochism by doing deviant things. The therapist will help the offender to change the mindset during sex and try to bring empathy to the masochist.

This is to change the mindset of the perpetrators, that the sexual behavior that he has done so far is wrong, dangerous, and should not be done. Meanwhile, efforts to generate empathy were carried out with the aim of helping the perpetrators understand the side of the victims suffering from masochistic behavior. Understanding that behavior is fatal, both in terms of victims and perpetrators will be taught in the perpetrators.

Cognitive therapy

This sexual disorder can also be helped by cognitive therapy. This therapy helps patients to manage their sexual desires in a healthier way. One of the psychotherapy strategies is to make the perpetrator engage masochism, become a victim, and then experience the negative events to reduce his desire to commit violence during sexual intercourse.

Psychodynamic therapy

This therapy links memories and conflicts (perhaps from the past) that you may not realize but also influence your sexually deviant behavior. Psychodynamic therapy will help reveal the children's early influence on the current habits of masochistic offenders. This method also helps to explore the current factors that contribute to the emergence of addiction to sexual behavior in the present.

Take antidepressant medication

Antidepressant drugs are often prescribed as drugs to reduce a person's sex drive. In addition, masochistic sufferers may also be given drugs that are useful for lowering testosterone levels to reduce the intensity of their erections.

Other sexual disorders that you need to know

1. Exhibitionist

Exhibitionist or exhibitionist is a person who likes to show their genitals in public or unknown people. Maybe this sounds "abnormal" to almost everyone, but for some exhibitionists, according to Stephen Hart, a forensic psychologist, this is the way they give impressions to others.

Exhibitionism is one of psychological disorder of the type of paraphilia, according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) V. Meanwhile, paraphilia itself is a sexual desire that tends to be extreme and unusual. For exhibitionists, displaying their genitals in public will provide sexual pleasure alone.

2. Voyeurism

This sex disorder is one of the conditions in which a person gets sexual satisfaction by peering, stalking, looking, and seeing others secretly. They will follow people who are doing some activities, such as naked, changing clothes, or bathing.

From this activity, voyeurism actors get sexual satisfaction by seeing other people unnoticed.

3. Necrophilia

Necrophilia or necrophilia is one of the other extreme sexual disorders, namely having the desire to make love with the body (the body of a deceased person). This could be a serious crime. The experts decided that this included an act of rape. This is because a deceased person cannot give approval for actions that other people will do to him.

4. Pedophilia

Pedophilia is a disorder in sexual desire that occurs when a person's sexual orientation is focused on children, not adults. According to Ray Blanchard of WebMD, pedophiles (the name for pedophile perpetrators) usually do and have the sexual desire with teenagers or children aged 13 years and under.

Current pedophile actions have been classified as acts of sexual abuse of minors. However, there is something to note that not all pedophiles abuse children. Of course, not all people who commit sexual violence in children are pedophiles.

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